How often do you take a few moments out to pay someone a compliment?
To simply take a few seconds to say “hey, good job, well done!”
Sometimes it isn’t easy, especially when there is a lot going on around us. We’re doing everything we can to keep it together whilst making sure the family is taken care of and work is done.
Most of the time inside, we are looking at what we haven’t done rather than what we have achieved and when we do, it’s an almost automatic response to what others aren’t doing rather than what they are.
In fact, we often don’t even realize that we are doing it because it has become “second nature” to always be looking at the “to do list” rather than the “well done, you did it list.”
Think about this just for a few moments.
What was the VERY FIRST conversation that you had with yourself this morning?
The one you had before you even really opened up your eyes and got yourself out of bed?
Did you say to yourself “Wow, that was a good sleep, I can’t wait to see what today has in store?”
Or was it “Can’t I just stay here, I really don’t feel like today because there’s just so much to do?”
Those conversations we start our day with often have the power to influence how we approach our day.
And it’s the same with compliments.
When we find it difficult to pay ourselves a compliment, we often find it difficult to genuinely do the same towards others.
And sometimes, we don’t even realize that it is going on around us and it isn’t until someone close to us brings it up that we take a look at what is going on.
But the simple act of paying someone a genuine and heartfelt compliment goes a long way towards not only lifting up another person but also towards helping yourself.
Paying compliments have a ripple effect on the people around you, and society in general.
It boosts a person self esteem and makes them feel valued.
And when they feel valued and appreciated, guess what they do ?
They start to value and appreciate those around them. They might even receive that little boost that you didn’t even know that they needed which gives them the strength and courage to do something they may have been putting it off.
They go home. They feel better about themselves and their families and loved ones receive positive attention.
And so it continues.
You see, the important thing to realize in all of this is whilst that it is not up to us to simply boost how someone feels, it is up to us to start to realize (and acknowledge) that our actions and words have the power to really impact others.
Paying someone a compliment is free.
It takes NO time at all.
And, if truth be told, it isn’t hard at all.
But guess where it starts ?
Right here. With YOU !
So today, right here and now, why not restart your day ?
Get up. Go look in the mirror and say something kind to yourself.
Be genuine about it, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable.
And then notice how you feel.
Maybe it will be a little bit uncomfortable at first or, more than likely, you won’t get up and go and do it.
But why not make a start today ?
You deserve it.
And so do the people around you who love you dearly.