At D-Toxd, we believe that life is, quite simply, the most amazing gift we can ever be given.
In the grand scheme of things, we are here for a short period and whilst we have no control over what goes on around us, we are in control of how we embrace everything that happens.
Early life for us, G&J, wasn’t the greatest and childhood was filled with a lot of pain and fear that led to years of unhappiness, something that many people live through in their lives.
For both of us, we had crucial moments that forced us to stop.
Events that made us realize that life was pretty short and if we didn’t make some changes, things might not turn out so great.
One of us lost a special relative in a car accident and the other woke up in a hospital bed, hooked up to machines and in a very bad way.
It was those events that forced us both to sit down, reflect and start to do things differently.
Does that mean that things magically transformed straight away ?
Does that mean that life is now a bed of roses with everything going smoothly all the time ?
Far from it.
But what it does bring is a deep appreciation for every day that we have since all those days many years ago.
It brings with it a driving desire to make the most out of all the opportunities that come our way, day in and day out that, all those years ago, we chose not to see.
So today, we thought we would share some of our top tips for making the most out of life, no matter what is going on around us.
1) Be Open and Honest in all you do
There’s no point in pretending or acting or saying things that you think people might want to hear. Simply hide behind your truth, no matter how uncomfortable it might feel at the time.
Things always have a way of coming out in the wash and, in the end, can cause more discomfort than anything else.
As long as you are doing your best and being open and honest about what’s happening for you, you have nothing to be ashamed of – there is a lot to be learned when we embrace the philosophy of “the truth will set you free.”
2) Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People
You are YOU. Nobody will ever do YOU like YOU do YOU.
Yes, you might have dreams of doing something that someone else has done but you will never be able to do it the way that they do it and often, because we can’t “draw like other people do” or “cook like others do” then we tell ourselves that we’re no good at it and we give up.
And it doesn’t stop there either.
The catch with this is that we are comparing ourselves with something that (potentially) doesn’t even exist because it’s our perception of what we think other people have or do that we’re comparing ourselves with – and yes, that might be a little confusing so maybe read it a few times.
You see, we will NEVER really know what’s going on for the person we are comparing ourselves too and that’s where the true danger of comparison lies.
Comparing yourself to other people is tiring. It drains us of energy (and self belief and self esteem) that could be better focused in other directions.
3) Be Thankful
For so many people, this one seems almost too simple to have any impact on our lives yet, it is probably one of the most beneficial things we could do.
Like the comparing, we are often looking at what we don’t have, what we haven’t done, what’s going wrong and so on rather than looking at the things we can be grateful for.
Gratitude helps us to put things into perspective. It opens your mind to possibilities going on around you and most of all, it really does open your eyes to so much more during times of trouble.
4) Take Your Daily E’s
And NO, that doesn’t mean drugs before we go any further.
Eat well – you have one body, fuel it well.
Exercise regularly – again, you have one body, take care of it.
What we eat and how we move really does have an impact on how we feel emotionally. That doesn’t mean we have to spend hours and hours in the gym or kitchen – it simply means we just take better care of the body that we live in.
5) Always Give 100%
Why give less than your best in everything that you do ?
When you give 100% to whatever you are doing, you are truly living in the moment. When you give anything less, the only person you are doing an injustice to is yourself.
And if you don’t want to give 100%, simply follow the first 4 tips mentioned above – be honest with yourself about the situation you are in and say “if I am not happy here, why am I doing this then?”
If you’re not happy, what situation (which you are currently in) are you comparing it to that makes you think you would be happier somewhere else ?
If you’re not giving your 100%, ask yourself “why am I not thankful that I am able to be in this position to be able to give my 100%?”
And if you’re taking care of your body, eating and exercising well, then you will have the energy to give 100%.
Life is too short to give 28% or 42% or 61%.
Make a choice, every day, regardless of what is going on around you, to give 100% to whatever you’re doing.
6) BONUS TIP – ABC
Always be compassionate.
You never, ever know what someone else is going through.
Be the person you hope will show up when you’re going through a tough time.
Yes, people will do the “wrong” thing to you sometimes but that doesn’t mean you have to do the “wrong” thing back.
People will hurt you, unfortunately. But that doesn’t mean you have to hurt back.
And life will throw you curve balls at times.
Just know this.
Compassion, kindness and honesty will shine through and show you the way.