A few years ago, we created a Manifesto. It’s our rules that we live by and if you’ve seen it, you will see that it is full of contradictions.
There’s a reason for that but for today, we won’t go into it except to say that for us, that’s what life is about.
The up’s and down’s, the in’s and out’s, the good’s and the bad’s – one doesn’t really go without the other and when we learn to embrace them, that’s when we truly start to understand the experience of being human.
Many of our guests come to visit us to kick start a weight loss program. They’re fed up with clothes that don’t fit and energy levels that don’t get them through the day so they decide something needs to shift.
But when it comes to weight loss, the world gets full of conflict and paradox.
By definition, (and yes, we took this from the internet so it’s quite technical) a paradox is a statement or concept that contains conflicting ideas. In logic, a paradox is a statement that contradicts itself; for example, the statement “I never tell the truth” is a paradox because if the statement is true (T), it must be false (F) and if it is false (F), it must be true (T). In everyday language, a paradox is a concept that seems absurd or contradictory, yet is true.
And weight loss is an area of life that is definitely full of paradoxes and contradictions so today, we thought we’d share our insights based on our experience of working with close to 2,000 people in the last few years.
There are, quite literally, 1,000’s and 1,000’s of blogs, articles, books and websites dedicated to weight loss. They’re all helpful and they all give you basic insight (and sometimes complex, too) into the “best” and “quickest” ways to lose weight.
If you’re starting a weight loss journey, basic education is a must. It’s old thoughts and behaviours that have led us to where we might be right now so finding new ways to do things is always important.
Do some basic research into nutrition and exercise. Understand the basic fundamentals of how it all works and find something that you are comfortable with. Give yourself a “research time period” and once the time is up, STOP !
But don’t get caught up in the hype and conflict
Be aware. Everyone is trying to compete with someone else, promoting this “quick fix” and that “best diet.”
There is a lot of hype, conflict and confusing information out there so be aware that once you start digging “too deep,” you will start coming across information that contradicts itself.
Over the years, we’ve seen too many people upset with what they’ve tried, disappointed that things “haven’t worked” and frustrated at which way to turn so be aware of this.
Track your progress
When starting out on a journey, it’s always good to plan. And this very same process applies to weight loss.
Being aware of calories you eat, how they affect your body and what you do is vital, especially at the start.
Have you ever looked at your hair every single day to see how much it has grown overnight ? We don’t notice much, if any, difference at all yet, after a few weeks, we take a look and think to ourselves “ooh, I must get my haircut?”
A similar principle comes into play with weight loss.
Just like on a long journey, we take regular pit stops to check the vehicle, look at fuel levels and take a rest. But they’re not every 5 minutes.
But don’t get consumed by the numbers
It’s pretty obvious and, without going into it in too much detail, this creates stress and tension in the body. Some people almost become obsessed with the numbers – how much am I eating, what am I burning, how much weight have I lost today ?
And when they don’t see the numbers changing quick enough over time, they throw the towel in and say “well, this doesn’t work for me at all” and they move onto the next quick fix.
Progress is best track by how you feel rather than the numbers you see staring back at you.
It really is simple
At the end of the day, the basics are pretty simple. Eat more than you burn and you’re in a surplus and you gain weight.
It really is that simple but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. That’s why it is important to apply each of the paradoxes mentioned above.
Educate yourself. Pick ONE “way” that you’re choosing to focus on and STICK WITH IT.
But you’ve got to put in the effort
Consistency is possibly one of the most important yet often overlooked things when it comes to a weight loss journey.
It’s not just gonna happen by magic with a few juices, some vegetables and a protein shake a day.
It’s not just gonna happen when you buy the exercise outfit and join a gym, arrive there and move around a little bit.
You’ve got to push yourself. You’ve got to get outside your comfort zone. And you’ve got to put in the time and effort and energy.
Balance is vital
Like a light, we can’t be ON all the time – sooner or later, we’ll either burn out or just fade away.
Eating and exercise isn’t meant to be boring or hard work but it is meant to challenge you and make you smile and laugh.
Finding your OWN personal balance is key – one that you enjoy, one that gives you the results that you’re looking for and one that embraces all these paradoxes.
But life isn’t always plain sailing
You’re gonna have bad days and times when you simply don’t have the energy or time to do the things needed and, you’ve probably heard people say that it’s an excuse.
It’s an excuse if you’re using the same “reasons” all the time but sometimes, your body is going to dictate what it wants to do.
Its part of being human. Embrace it. Take a day off every now and then, knowing that it’s OK and that you can choose to start again the following day.
Don’t beat yourself up about it. Don’t throw the towel in. Life isn’t always a bed of roses but with the right attitude and approach, you have the tools to help you navigate the storm weather.